Monday, April 13, 2009

Friend Makin' Monday

It's time once again for FMM(Friend Makin' Monday) over at Kasey's. This is a super fun way to get to know other awesome bloggers. So head on over to find out the rules and link up!

This week we are talking about words to live by or ADVICE...here's the question:

What is the Best Advice someone has ever given you?....this one was a hard one for me. I've been given many pieces of advice from many people through-out my life. They range from marriage to finances to children, and family. The one that stands out the most to me though is a simple thing my brother said to me during a very difficult time in my life, and that was...


"Take the High Road."


This at the time pertained to the divorce I was going through. I went to him many, many times needing advice and venting frustrations, he would patiently listen, let me cry, let me be angry, let me cry some more and simply say,"take the high road". Those words always made me stop, evaluate what I needed to do, help me realize that no matter what I did or said, nothing would bring my marriage back, and I had to move forward with this new life I was forced to have. I could deal with the changes in many ways, but his advice was always the same...and that made me stop and think! Many times in the last seven years since that time, those words have come back...I am faaaaarrrr from perfect, and have not always used this simple advice, but it's always there in my mind. Thanks Darrin, you're a very wise, and caring brother, and I love you!

If you want to share some advice, and make some friends, head on over to Kasey's and play along!

I hope everyone had a wonderful Easter, and enjoyed spending time with family, and friends as you celebrated this special holiday! Have a great Monday...

37 comments:

Midlife, menopause, mistakes and random stuff... said...

Brother's must just be born with a few (and I do mean a few....you'd have to know my 3 brothers, lol). Big Bro told me one time "Reggie, you can be right or you can be happy". I've never forgotten that one. After all, being right isn't the most important thing (well..... every now and again it don't hurt though, lol).
I love those picy's of your sweet smiling little ones over there on the right :)

Steady On
Reggie Girl

That Girl said...

awww! good brother!

Lanie said...

What a great brother. There are days when I have to remind myself this in marriage!

Jenny-Jenny said...

Great advice. Very thought provoking... Take the High Road. Definitely one to consider every day. Thanks.

Divine Mrs D said...

That's wonderful, beautiful advice.

Alicia @ boylerpf said...

Great advice any time. Great brother to give the advice too!

Rhonda said...

What a great brother to be there for you and to offer great adivce!
Take care!

Candy Graber said...

What a good friend! You are blessed, good friends are precious treasures! Thanks for visiting my blog!

Sare said...

wow...I so needed to hear that this morning - I hope you guys all had a great Easter!! I really hope Lexlee is feeling better!!!

Anissa said...

I'm the oldest and I always try to give good advise to my 3 younger sisters, but they don't listen- One is 29, 24, and 19.

Thanks for sharing -- Great brother you have!

Amy said...

That is great you have such a nice family to help you out when you needed it. That is something hard to deal with and look at you. You did it. I sure do love and count on my family. Hope you had a wonderful weekend.

Becca @ The Texas Darlings said...

Great Great Great advice! But sometime we struggle to follow that one.

I love that you have a close relationship with your brother too!

Thanks for sharing and I hope you have a great week!

Becca

Xazmin said...

That made me cry. You never told me this before. I won't say what you know I want to say! But you have an awesome life now, and if you never came here to live after your divorce we never would have met!

Love ya!

SweetTorts said...

Good advice from a good brother...

shortmama said...

Its great that you can look back on that advice and know that you did take the high road!

kkrowan said...

That's really good advice even more so at that time in your life.

Jen said...

Such good advice, and so nice to have a brother! I never had one, but Hubby has a sister and I know she relies on him so much for his advice on anything and everything.

Thanks for sharing, and stopping by my blog :-)

Jodi said...

Taking the high road is great advice! It's so great that you have such a good relationship with your brother too. Thank you for your kind words on my blog. We're so glad they're home!

jennykate77 said...

Great advice. Taking the high road is hard sometimes, but I think when you look back, you're always glad that you did.

Happy Monday!

Vivienne said...

Well, looking at the beautiful photos of your children and doing the math on their ages, it appears the high road took you to a beautiful place.

Great advice from your big brother and kudos to you for being able to take it and implement it. Sounds like you're a pretty strong lady with good character. :-)

The Blonde Duck said...

What wonderful advice! The high road isn't easy, but it's worth it!

Marci @ All Things Wonderful said...

That's great advice. What a wonderful brother.

Heidi @ Blue Eyed Blessings said...

Great advice! Love this one. Something I strive to do (but often fail at). Such a great brother to be such a support to you!

Kelsey said...

Great Advice. I go to my brother when I just need to vent sometimes and he has the best things to say most of the time.
I hope you having a great day!!!

Joy For Your Journey said...

That is great advice--and one that will never have any regrets!

"FINE"al thoughts... said...

That is truly the best advice when we are dealing with relationships that are turning sour...whether it be marriages, friendships, family relationships. It's so tempting to act beneath ourselves when things get emotional but if we remember to 'take the high road' we will seldom do or say things we might regret later. Great post! Thanks for sharing! (BTW thanks to you and Xazmin I am LOVING FMM!)

That Girl said...

I gave you an award!

Kris said...

Wow...that really is such good advice given from your brother. And it's so true. Life is so much easier (not necessarily easy), when we do that. Thanks so much for sharing that today!

Michelle said...

I took the High Road for many years and now my kids are grown and I know they both respect that I took the High Road!

Shawn said...

I tell my girls "Rise above~Don't engage".

I so need to practice what I preach!

Christie in Dallas, TX said...

The High Road can be the hardest road to walk, but in the long run, it's the best thing. Thanks for sharing this and sharing your story, Tanielle!

-Christi

Wendy said...

THank you for stopping by and leaving me some love, and what a GREAT blog you have!!!

jenjen said...

Hi Tanielle!
Sorry I am so late today! Great advice. It is hard to take the high road sometimes. But I am always glad that I did afterwards!

I hope you had a wonderful day!

XOXO
Jen

Teresa @ Grammy Girlfriend said...

Great advice...thank you...hope you will stop by again and visit me....and meet baby Jack.

I love your blog.

Miller Racing Family said...

What wonderful advice from your brother! That is advice we need to all remember and use daily in almost any situation. Thanks for sharing and have a blessed Monday!

Amy Jo said...

my dad does in fact give great advice doesn't he? i've realized that alot now that i'm all "grown up and mature" haha.

*aLiCia aNn* said...

my dad does give pretty amazing advice. he's an amazing person. i love him alot for it. he helps me through so much. he's a good person that does let you cry and he'll tell you something little that will go a long way. love ya aunt tani